Most people are looking for their purpose in life. They want to find what they are good at. They want to find out what they were meant to do. They want to leave a mark on the world they live in. And with good reason. We all want to be remembered. What most people don't realize is that we hold so much power...in relationships.

Think about it.

In a relationship, you have the power to make someone completely happy, sad, nervous, anxious, angry, and a whole lot of other emotions. You. Just you. You being yourself. You have the ability to make them cry, laugh, laugh until they cry, yell, throw something in anger...all that.

With that being said. As you head into new relationships or continue with ones you have, realize how much power you have. Realize that you are in control of this person. They hopefully love you. They care about you. If you feel the same way, tell them. If you don't, tell them. Don't let them go along thinking you are on the same page and then tell them later that you aren't really that interested. That will hurt them worse. Trust me.

If you aren't sure what you are thinking, talk to them. That way, you can make sure you are on the same page. And if your not, you can fix it. It sounds corny and everyone has heard it before, but I've realized talking to each other is really the best thing you can do in a relationship to keep it healthy and going. Even when you are just friends.

That's another thing. If you are just interested in being friends make that clear. It may end up that somewhere along the way, they have developed feelings for you and making that clear is a good thing. That way, they can go on and find someone else.

Don't think that the things you say will go unnoticed. 99.9% of the time the other person will listen to you and is probably feeling the same way. And if they aren't interested in listening, isn't it time to find someone else anyway?

Please realize that your past is just that. Your past. And I know it isn't easy to forget the things that have happened in the past. Believe me I do. But realize that this new relationship is just that. New. It is something unfamiliar and something you hopefully haven't been through before. Hopefully there are different feelings and different emotions. Hopefully, this one won't treat you like the last one. And you just have to trust that they won't. The past is your past and this relationship is your present and maybe your future.

Be honest. Tell them how you feel. Don't be afraid of letting someone else into that thick skull...I mean... heart...

Hope everyone has a Happy New Year and gets that kiss at midnight from the person that want to. And, if not, just remember there is always next year. :)